You can heal your relationship from an affair.
YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO TRUST AGAIN
The betrayal is incomprehensible and you feel so much pain and confusion.
How long will it take for the pain to get better?
How long before you can trust them again?
You feel heartbroken and confused. You go between blaming them and blaming yourself. How could they do that to you? You wonder where things went wrong in the relationship.
You are trying to figure out if you even want to work on rebuilding the relationship or if you should leave it because you are not sure if you will ever be able to trust again.
You don’t know if you even want to stay, so you are not sure if therapy will be helpful.
You are so hurt and angry that you don’t even want to be in the same space with them, let alone be in therapy together.
Or maybe you are the partner who had the affair and you want to start couples therapy, but your partner is not ready because they are hurt and angry and not sure they even want this relationship.
Maybe your affair is still ongoing and you are having a hard time ending it, or you are not sure if you should end it at all. Maybe the affair partner is the right one for you since your current relationship has not felt good in so long.
All these questions and thoughts are very common in an affair situation.
You are not alone in feeling this way.
As a Couples Therapist trained in Affair Recovery, I can help you navigate this challenging time. It’s a difficult process and it is helpful to have a professional guide you through it.
Together we will identify the phases of affair recovery and work through them in helping you process your pain, understand how you got here and what’s next.
If your partner is not ready to come to therapy, I can work with you alone to help you understand the process and gain clarity for yourself, as well as with how to better help your partner in the recovery process.
I have guided many couples through the process of affair recovery, healing and rebuilding their relationships.
Some Concerns You May Have About Therapy
My partner is too upset and hurt and is not ready for couples therapy at this time. You can start therapy alone and learn about the process of recovery and how to best help yourself and your partner.
I am too angry at my partner and not sure if therapy will be effective at this time. A trained therapist can guide you in how to express your hurt and anger in a more constructive way, without acting it out and causing even more emotional damage to the relationship.
I am already feeling a lot of shame and guilt over the affair and worried about more judgment coming from the therapist. During our affair recovery work I create a safe and non-judgmental space where both of you can process the hard feelings of anger, grief, guilt, and shame.
I am the partner with the affair and am not sure if the affair partner or my current partner is the one with whom I want to be. I will help you process your thoughts and emotions so you can gain clarity and make the decisions that you feel is the right one for you.
Let’s get started.
You don’t have to navigate this challenging process alone. I have been trained in working with couples in Affair Recovery, and I am here to help.
Married or dating, together or individually, I will work with you on repairing, reconnecting and creating a happy and satisfying relationship.
Liliya George, LMFT
1361 South Winchester Blvd., Suite 111
San Jose, CA 95128
Phone: (408) 827-5983